Yes it's Normal
Shelly gently unpacks sex and imtimacy after sexual abuse
It's Normal to Experience Some Physical Arousal During Abuse or Rape
Arousal is a physiological response, not a sign of consent or enjoyment. This episode gently unpacks the confusion, shame, and biology behind why the body sometimes responds this way - and why that doesn’t make your trauma any less real.
It's Normal to Fantasise About Your Abuse or Rape
Fantasies are complex and often misunderstood. This episode explores how trauma and arousal pathways can become entangled - and why fantasies that echo trauma can be a way the mind tries to make sense of uncomfortable thoughts.
It's Normal to Turn On And Off Quickly
Hyperarousal, numbness, and emotional flipping are common after trauma. Shelly discusses how these patterns develop and how survivors can begin to understand and soothe their nervous systems without judgment.
It's Normal to Have Sexual Problems After Abuse or Rape
Pain, disconnection, or difficulty with desire are natural after trauma. This episode offers validation and insight into why these struggles are common, and how healing can look different for everyone.
It's Normal to Struggle With Intimacy and Emotions, Even When You Love Your Partner
Loving someone doesn’t always make vulnerability easy, in fact for some, it makes it more difficult. Shelly explores the emotional impact of trauma in relationships - and how survivors can move toward trust and connection without abandoning their own pace or needs.